Don’t Let Your Relationship Status Define You

I think now a days it is very easy to loose yourself in a relationship. It’s also very easy to let singleness define who you are. With that comes your value,joy,and worth being based in the relationship or lack there of and that’s not right. 

Instead of letting your status defined who we are, we should let it refine us. Let me explain what I mean. When I was single, I would feel my heart listening to what God had to say about my singleness. How my singleness wasn’t  punishment, rather a time for Him to prepare a man’s heart for me and mine for him. My heart also heard things about my value, my joy, and my worth, none of which were based on my relationship, but in my ability to trust God and His timing.

 Now that I’m crazy in love, I feel my heart listening to what God is saying about being in a relationship.About being faithful, honest, respectful, and ultimately I feel my heart transforming into one of a wife and mother. I also hear it refining in a way where I am doing things for the relationship, not because of the relationship. 


Dont let your relationship status define who you are. Your value is there whether you’re a girlfriend or single and ready to mingle. Don’t let it define you. Let it refine what your heart is hearing God say. 
XOXO you’re worthy 

9 thoughts on “Don’t Let Your Relationship Status Define You

  1. muffythedramaslayer says:

    Oh, so much this! Forgive me for pontificating when it’s my first time here, but this so resonates, and you say it so well! Because once a person is married, what stays day in and day out is who they really are deep down inside. I think a lot of people get into relationships or even get married because of how the other person makes them feel… they go shopping for a relationship like it’s a pair of shoes. But it’s not a shopping trip scenario – it’s a store owning scenario… what do you have on your shelves to offer the other person? What are you going into the future with? If you have nothing on your shelves but the fact that you managed to date/marry/land the other person, it’ll be some slim pickin’s in the years to come!

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  2. sthewriter says:

    Thanks for the “like” on my recent post. Great piece, I like it – and the one about Engagement Ring Selfies (hilarious). Great frames in your thumbnail by the way. šŸ˜‰


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