Being young is very hard. Being old is also very hard. There are certain struggles that come with any age: dating, school, PTA, grand kids, or endless burying a loved one. There is no age group that has it better or worse then another.
I personally know I get crapped on all the time because I am a dreaded Millennial. Why does my age have to alter the way you perceive me? Why do you have to act like I’m incapable or hard work, based off the fact that SOME millennials do not? Here are my 3 thoughts on judgment and age.
Ageism Is Real Y’all
NEWSFLASH: you can be discriminating against someone that has nothing to do with race. If you do not know what this is, lemme give ya the definition.
“Ageism (also spelled “agism”) is stereotyping and discriminating against individuals or groups on the basis of their age.”
Do you think older people aren’t necessarily valuable employees? You might be an ageist.
Do you think all millennials are lazy cry babies? You might be an ageist.
Your Time Has No More Value Then Anyone Else’s
I get so fired up when people imply they have more going on in their lives then others, or that their time is more precious then someones. If you are busy and cannot get things done that is your CHOICE. If you have work to do, do it first and then go out with your friends,not party first work second. If someone else of a different age chooses to spend their weekends relaxing at home, and working it is their choice. Don’t blame your choices on why you did not accomplish something, or say ” they have less going on”. Sorry dude, you can sit your ass at home and get things done, instead of going out every night. You choose to be as busy as you allow yourself to be.
Assuming You Have It Harder Than Someone Else
With every age there are different struggles, but someone older or younger could be facing the same thing. Say you are in your 30’s and a single mom. There are struggles that you are going through that a 17 year old single mom could be facing at the same time. Don’t say she has it easier because she is 17, y’all are in the same place. Same thing with someone with a mortgage and family complaining that a 20 something has it ” so easy”. You don’t know their struggles with rent, car payments, etc. Heck they could have a mortgage too, you do not know.
Bottom line: stop being an ageist. No age has it better then another, unless you are a toddler, they have it made.
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In the many years that I have lived, I have seen young teenage having more wisdom than a person of 50 or 60. Wisdom, not reserved for the senior generation; it comes in many ways. The sad thing is the older generation should have much more wisdom than it has today.
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Agreed!
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“They”, that infamous they, said the same thing about Generation X being a bunch of lazy skate board riding slackers. And the Boomers were the bright star of the universe after WWII and they were, in general, a moral catastrophe. I went back to college to finish my degree recently and most of the twenty-somethings that I met and talked with and studied with were no more or less lazy or self-absorbed than any other human being on the planet. Beard grooming and beanie wearing aside, I got along with a nearly all of them better than I did the folks my own age (Professors mostly. That was awkward.) And found them to be engaging and social WHILE texting and staring at their phones and whatever. It’s just a different dynamic for a different generation.
So yeah, good points.
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You are correct, each generation has had its own struggles and challenges to deal with. All through the history of the world, people have had to make choices. It is totally up to each individual to decide what they want to do with their life. Some have just had a more difficult set of circumstances to deal with…but that benefits them more rewards and blessings in the end. Good post!
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Thank you so much!
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Unless you are a toddler.. š
Nice post.
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Thank you so much
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Speaking of struggles and age, could I interest you in a film unjustly banned in America, and has been banned for almost a decade?
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Yeah the judgements are real and everybody seems to know. But in reality nobody does u till they walk in the shoes of the one the discriminate against. A sad but real reality that happens all too much.
As always loved your post lady and you are awesome ā¤ļø
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Thank you so much!
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I’ll admit openly that I have had problems relating to younger people in general. I’m quiet and reserved and will generally observe a situation before engaging in it. My experience has been mixed both with good enlightening experiences and bad “shaking my head” experiences. You’re right, everyone is their own person and in charge of the choices they make; good, bad, or ugly. I value the time I invest in communication as it takes so much energy to engage in, so when someone (regardless of age) is on some form of technology, I take it personally. Recent experience, coincidentally, with technology users have been younger than me. Age is irrelevant, however my perception of that person goes down significantly. I’m happy that you’re writing about this topic, understanding of others begins with us understanding ourselves first.
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I totally agree!
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I feel that in the Christian community, in particular, the constant “Why Millennials are Leaving the Church” articles have left the church regarding us as that pain-in-the-rear flight risk instead of a group of people. “Sigh…those millennials. What are we going to do with you?” And the fact that we lean a different direction politically than the generations before us doesn’t help.
Admittedly, though, we can be a hard generation to reach. As the grandkids of the 60s revolution and all that, we’re asking questions, and dealing with issues, that the previous generation never did. If the church really wants to reach millennials, all they have to do is listen. Sit down, learn about the struggles, help and invest.
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I agree! I think we could all learn from one another
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One question: what issues are millennials dealing with that other generations have not? The answer to ageism is not presentism. That said, I agree that the church needs to listen to millennials in a genuine back-and-forth dialogue in which all generations listen for the wisdom found in others.
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In general, a higher rate of broken families and resulting loss of identity, security, and confidence.
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I am 66, 67 next month, and both of my son’s were born in my 40’s (40 and 47), that makes them millennials! My youngest son is in the Royal British Army, and a combat medic (infantry). My oldest son, teaches military history in a private college in the UK. Both pretty good young men! And yes, their mother is younger than I, but still my lover and my best friend! It’s how ya raise them generally speaking, always with guts and God’s glory!
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So true! Try getting laid off then finding another job after 50! That’s the magic number, fans! 50 and older, not so attractive to HR.
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I have noticed that! That’s horrible
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Straightforward truth! Thank you for saying what must be said š
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Thank you so much!
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Great post! It reminds me of a quote…”be kind to others because everyone you encounter is fighting a battle you know nothing about”
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I love that saying!
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Of course I am retired military (Royal Marine, RMC), but only semi-retired as an Anglican priest & presbyter, still doing hospital chaplain work, and some preaching. But we are in the USA now, and wow this culture is NOT senior friendly! But I hardly act like a senior, but still press it some, and teach discipleship… that is an old word these days in the Church! Oh to be real ‘In Christ’, and thus less popular, challenging the time and culture… ‘The Road Less Traveled’!
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If we continue to see Christians as belonging to different groups, then we as a Church will end up like the United States, divided because everyone put their ethnicity first and fail to see we are all Americans. The Church must be strong and UNITED.
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Thankfully both the Visible Church and the true Elect Body of Christ are much more than Americans! But surely the Western world and culture, Medieval to the European, British and American Christians etc., have laid their great foundations! But the great question remains, will we finish the Collective Race together? I myself believe we are staring at the Eschatological End!
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Yes, the end is near, but there are events that must transpire first. We are only experiencing the outer layer, there is much more, that is to come. I have seen far too many fellowships that live in a comfort-zone that they think will protect them in America. To be a Christian means to suffer, and many do not understand this concept. In 2 Timothy 3:12, it says, Indeed, all who want to live godly in Christ Jesus will see persecution.
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I enjoyed this post. You may be young and a millenial, but I almost envy millenials. You have come to show us baby boomers that there is more to life than our own carved in stone thoughts. I see a lot more love of people with millenials, which is great. My own children make me smile a lot, as I see that all of their thoughts may not be the same as mine. No matter, I am glad for their adventurous ways. Thanks again.
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You’re so right š
I wrote a similar article if you want to read it.
https://lookaround99.wordpress.com/2016/04/01/varsta-mea-my-age/
Cheers! ā¤
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Thanks so much for your most insightful post. It brought to mind this quote attributed to Edward Wallis Hoch:
There is so much good in the worst of us,
And so much bad in the best of us,
That it hardly behooves any of us
To talk about the rest of us.
Thanks so much also for the likes posted on Dr. J’s Apothecary Shoppe.
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I’m an older person and I’m called the “selfish baby boomer”. I hate that since I worked hard all my life and was never a HIPPIE! I’ve never been selfish. I love helping people.
I get along very well with people of all ages. I find there is a lot to learn across the whole spectrum of ages. And I love my interchanges with all of them.
Whenever I hear someone say or write that the younger generation is lazy, stupid, etc. I remind those people that we have lots of good younger people and who do they think protects us, our great military, both guys and gals who sacrifice so much for us.
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Great post and discussion. To concur with Jeffery…50 is the magic number, it when many people realize that you must dance with the one that brung ya!. How you treated other people including family ; how you treated yourself all comes home to roast. Folks there are no “do overs” and so do it right the first time!
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