Dating as a whole in today’s society seems to be a huge joke. People are so willing to screw over and screw anything and anyone who gives them attention. Not to mention the constant attention people thrive on from social media. No wonder the divorce rate is so high, because people get in relationships with unrealistic expectations and with a selfish mentality. No one respects the term TAKEN anymore and instead see it as a challenge to change that.
So I’ve compiled a list of things I strive to do as a girlfriend, that will one day (hopefully) carry over into my marriage, that way my future husband doesn’t expect something that just isn’t gonna happen.
Praying For Him.
It may sound silly to say I pray for my husband, since I don’t have one, but God knows who I’m going to marry. Why not pray for him before we meet? Pray he strives to be a good person. Pray for God’s guidance and wisdom for him. Pray he is preparing himself to be the husband and man you deserve. I also pray that God reveals His plan to us when the time is perfect. I personally pray for my future husbands motivation, passion, and most importantly that he seeks God feverishly.
Learning To Cook and Clean
I don’t care how medieval and old school it sounds to say a woman should cook and clean, but its true. Bread winners is what we are. I try to get in the habit of already having meals prepared, groceries bought, and pantry stocked. As for cleaning, I’ve learned doing a little each day is better then having to bulldoze your house and start over because its so nasty. No man wants an empty belly and dirty house. Yes, he can still take out the garbage.
Allowing Myself To Be Lead
I don’t mean, being lead on. I mean, practice letting the man lead me closer to God. God designed men to put on the full armor of Christ and to lead you throughout life. Trying to be in charge of the relationship may work temporarily, but ultimately it will lead to your man feeling demasculated. Trust your mans choices and decisions, but have a discussion about them first.
Learning A Routine
Many women who get married have never had an actual routine. Get up,go to work, come home, cook dinner and so on. If you don’t even have a basic routine down, that leads to you getting overwhelmed and burnt out easier. No to mention paying bills, and attempting to squeeze in time for friends and other activities. Gym who?
Being Happy On My Own
I’ve had a battle with this the last few years of my life, but you need to learn how to be happy on your own. If your happiness is dependent on your boyfriend and eventually husband, it could cause trouble. Don’t get me wrong, my boyfriend makes me unbelievably happy, but I also have learned to be happy when we aren’t together. If you are miserable when you two aren’t together, you seem needy and clingy. No to mention if you guys ever got in a fight you would feel like the world is crumbling. Also giving any one person that much power of you, can lead to you being abused and manipulated.
Learning to be Selfless
For me this isn’t so much as a challenge as it is a goal. I have no problem being giving and sacrificing. I’ve been trying to have a good attitude about it. I tend to worry about the aftermath of giving, as opposed to being happy I’m in the position to give and help someone else . Being in a position where I am able to help, is a blessing in itself.