Gardening & Love

Raise your hand if you have a green thumb. My hands are still by my sides, but I thought it would be a good idea to get some small plants for my apartment. Since I live in the concrete jungle that is Atlanta, some green would really brighten up my place. I drove myself to Lowe’s and got some plants and cool terrariums and was ready to grow some things!  I went conservative and got some succulents and a cactus. Strange enough I have zero clue how to care for such plants and apparently thought it would be a good idea to not look up how often to water them.

Well today I noticed one was STINKING. Like gross smelling nastiness, but I didn’t know why. It did not look dry, so I knew it had enough water so couldn’t have been my fault it was dying. Well I dumped it out of its vase and realized the entire bottom of the vase was full of water. I had actually over watered the poor thing to the point it was so over saturated with water, it could no longer live.

and in that moment of clarity as a new plant murderer I realized tending to a plant is like tending to a relationship. Sometimes less is more, and too much of something good can make the relationship stinky and eventually kill it. Whether you two are attached at the hip, spend every second texting one another, or spoil one another constantly; too much of a good thing can lead to a problem. With the constant stream of good things comes expectations or dreams of more, BIGGER, and better things. Things that not everyone can live up too or deliver. Expectations lead to pressure and pressure can lead to disappointment and resentment if not lived up too. So having good things in your relationships is great, but you have to know how to keep yourself in check, and to know when you are setting one another up for failure. It’s all about balance people.